Mar 24, 2020
It’s so important to form win-win relationships, especially when you are networking for your career. This week, Kare Anderson, Emmy-winning former NBC and Wall Street Journal reporter, author, and now connective behavior and quotability speaker, joins us to discuss why mutuality is so beneficial, and what benefits we get when we are in a win-win environment. Kare’s TED talk on The Web of Humanity has over 2.2 million views, and she is the author of several books including Mutuality Matters and Moving From Me to We. She and I also discuss how to focus on commonalities instead of differences, where to start in developing a win-win relationship, and the difference between mutuality and quid pro quo.
What You Will Hear in This Episode:
- Specificity matters. If you care about something and you get specific, you pull others in to find a common thread of interest.
- Attract and involve diverse people in your life, and be there for them. They will be able to help you, and you will be able to help them.
- Kare started her career as a journalist, and the people around her went out of their way to teach her to be a better and stronger journalist. She now pays it forward to others and encourages others to do the same.
- Tell someone about a talent that they don’t know they have.
- When you are engaged in conversation, ask follow up questions to go even deeper.
- If you are in a large organization, it is powerful to put people together from different departments in a 6-7 person group to compare notes and see how they can help each other.
- Quid pro quo is helping people with an idea that it’s a transaction and an expectation to do favors back and forth, but a win-win relationship is mutually beneficial with faith and belief that you can help each other down the line.
Quotes:
- “Healthy relationships are not a quid pro quo, but an overflow of mutual support over time.”
- “It’s getting more important every year to have diverse allies.”
- “People are more unlikely to ask for help than to give it back.”
Mentioned:
TED Talk: Be an Opportunity Maker