Aug 10, 2021
Dr. Lois Frankel, author of the Bestseller Nice Girls Don’t Get the Corner Office, knows what it is like to be a reformed nice girl turned badass. She has dedicated her energy and time to work with women of all walks of life and ages to help them feel empowered and confident to speak up and make their presence felt. Today, she talks about the difference between being a nice girl and a nice woman, how important likability really is in the workplace, and a sneak peek into her audiobook Nice Girls Don’t Speak Up or Stand Out.
What You Will Hear in This Episode:
Badass women know the correct times to show their badassery.
Being a badass is about feeling seen and heard, and having the confidence to speak up.
It is never too late to practice using your voice at meetings, or in any of your professional and personal relationships.
Lois is a reformed “nice girl” and untaught herself a lot of the expectations to sit and be good without stirring the pot.
Badass doesn’t mean you are nasty and mean, it means you actively listen, and help others but also stand your ground and speak up when needed.
One of the biggest traits of why we hire and vote for others is because we view them as likable, and someone we could see ourselves sitting down for a beer with. While it’s important for both men and women to be likable, men have it easier for now by being expected to be more direct and straightforward than most women.
There is a new generation of workers that don’t respond to fear or authority the same way as we once did. Instead, they respond to traits that have been typically seen as more feminine such as interpersonal skills and connection.
A nice girl is kind and doesn’t rock the boat, but a nice woman can do her thing while also being a badass.
In Ageless Women, Timeless Wisdom, Lois interviewed women over 70 and asked them one thing they knew to be true in all their years of life experience. She learned that you can’t paint all women with one brush of wisdom, and their learning lessons differed throughout the varied locations.
“I know when to be a badass.”
“When our primary objective is to be liked, we give our power away.”
“We hire and vote for people we think we are going to like.”
“ Everything works out in the end, and if it didn’t work out, it’s not the end. “
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